In the 3rd article in the series on the “miracle” and the “mind,” we are going to bring kindness and unkindness into the discussion about specialness. In A Course in Miracles (ACIM), kindness is connected with humility and learning and unkindness is by using arrogance and specialness. The miracle-minded obviously choose humility, learning and kindness this means they’ll eventually learn to forgive all specialness which will be what maintains the separation from God. Belief in separation relates to everyone who’s the One Son perceiving Himself as separate and different fragments. All unkindness stems from the anxiety in the mind once we repress our fear and guilt rather than forgiving our specialness desires. We blame and project it onto others that are really a part of us in reality.
There are two books by Kenneth Wapnick on, “The Healing Power of Kindness.” Volume 1 is on, “Releasing Judgment” and Volume 2 on, “Forgiving Our Limitations.” For me, these ought to be required reading and continuing study for anybody who’s a significant Course student. The following passage says all of it:
When you put aside the brilliant metaphysics of A Course in Miracles and its sophisticated psychological insights, the Course could possibly be pared down to one simple rule: Be kind. If you’re not kind, then not merely are you currently not practicing the Course, there is no way you may even begin to understand it. No matter how brilliant your knowledge of its metaphysics may be, if you’re not being kind toward someone else, you’re not doing what this Course is asking (The Healing Power of Kindness, Vol.1: Releasing Judgment by Kenneth Wapnick, p. 10, underline mine).
Not surprisingly admonition, we insist on being unkind:
This inability to seriously practice A Course in Miracles’kind principles of forgiveness that they study, and sometimes even teach, has perhaps been probably the most serious failing among its students. This book’s sequel, “Few Decide to Listen,” discusses how students often conceal their thought system of specialness under the guise of spiritual counseling or friendship. The lack of simple kindness is, unfortunately, unmistakable to any or all except the Course student making the spiritual pronouncements (The Message Of A Course in Miracles: All Are Called, p. 306).
The non-dualistic meaning of kindness can’t be understood here within the knowledge of dualism provided that specialness is continuously chosen as the ego hails from an unkind thought against God and Heaven. Our unwillingness to recognize this in regards to the ego, and what all that thought system is capable of doing, is a thing that hinders our progress with the Course. We ought to be willing to consider the ego with the Holy Spirit – the real Teacher – and take that darkness to Him for forgiveness. Nothing can be hidden and that’s straight from the Course.
Kindness To Others Is Kindness To Self
In his books on kindness, Mr. Wapnick also covers the origin of a person’s unkind behavior is the same fear (and repressed guilt) that is in our own mind and that is what unites us. We also have the same right-mind and the same ability to choose between them. Choosing to be kind does not make us different or better; rather it indicates we’re willing to practice the “kind principles” of the Course so that individuals can learn to understand everything it’s teaching. It’s merely a question of priority.
He goes on to state that in learning how exactly to be kind towards others, we’re practicing being kind toward ourselves because, “you and your brother are one. They’re a part of you. You’re not different.” This goes directly to one’s heart of the ego’s thought system wherein the idea of difference is the way the ego began – God and His Son were separate and different – and undoes it. Even the slightest hint of specialness may be the ego. What he is saying becomes clear if you actually study and practice the sort forgiveness of the Course!
A serious student of the Course wants to learn what this means. These students would prefer to be a happy learner with the only true teacher – the Holy Spirit – rather than a spiritually special teacher of the ego in any form a course in miracles.They’re happy to learn from Him how exactly to be free from the burdens connected with denying the Truth:
Forgiveness’kindness is obscure initially, because salvation is not understood, nor truly sought for (S-2.I.1). And here you’ll set down the burden of denying truth. This is the burden that is terrible, and not the truth (T-21-VI.7).
Self versus “self” -or- Identity versus “identity”
In the Course, there is a distinction involving the “Self” which will be our true Identity as Christ and the “self” identity with the ego. This is a key point to understand as the very first accepts the big event God gave us through being God-created; however the latter is self-created and completely influenced by the ego and its function of vengeance and maintaining separation. Everyone already believes they are the ego. We wouldn’t be here otherwise. To take into account the possibly of this being correct and in need of correction restores hope to the mind since it points to the way in which out.
Each time a spiritually special Course teacher (a kind of unhealed healer) teaches specialness of the ego, they are being unkind towards others and thus themselves although they are highly unlikely to view it that way. They’re also not likely to believe that it is kind for someone to have boundaries with them because their fear and guilt (and anxiety) are very great. However, honestly looking at the planet, we see that it’s filled up with the fragmented Sonship who’s anxiety-ridden from identifying with the ego self. Unkindness is rampant on the planet as well as in the Course community. As Wapnick states though, we won’t learn the Course until we choose to be kind.
Our behaviors will be the demonstration which mind we’ve chosen (God or the ego). The ego is a vengeful and tyrannical thought system of unkindnesses whereas freedom from it’s tied directly to kindness:
Without anxiety the mind is wholly kind (T-6.III.3).
Freedom can’t be learned by tyranny of any kind (T-8.IV.7).
It can be unkind to change the Course and spiritual specialness does that through competition with God and thus everyone. One small change effectually changes the entirety of the Course, a total thought system. If you were to think you recognize that, you don’t. If you know you do, you’ll automatically be kind for you understand the inherent value kindness plays in learning and understanding the Course. As Wapnick states, “It’s a question of priority.”